How do I get a med school boyfriend/girlfriend?

Dear QMR, 
How do I get a medschool boyfriend/girlfriend?
Sincerely,
Looking for someone to pull my chordae tendinae

Dear Looking, 

I don’t have the answer to this. But let me try. 

If this is a priority for you, then think of it like getting into medical school: you decided you wanted to be a doctor and then worked hard, were at this for years, (likely) got rejected a few times, but you’re here. You made it. 

The way I see it, there are two ways to approach this: passively or actively. If you’re looking for love passively, you might think, “when the time is right, the person of my dreams will walk into my life, we’ll meet in a cute book store, and it’ll happen.” On the other hand, an active seeker might think,  “This is something I want in my life, and I’m going to make an effort to make it happen.” 

With the active approach, it might mean getting yourself on to an online dating app (the stigma of this is GONE) – especially in a place as small as Kingston, it’s a great way to meet new people! It may be going to parties, socializing, or telling your friends you’re single and ready to mingle (then being open to meeting new people that way). Ask people out – let go of the ego of not wanting to make the first move. Don’t take rejection personally – you deserve to be with someone who’s bending over backwards to be with you and if they’re not then let them go.

I encourage you to think about what’s important to you in a partner but also to not make a list of checkboxes that your partner has to meet. I strongly feel that there is no one single person that will meet all your “checkboxes” and honestly, you won’t meet all of them for your partner. You will crush on people who don’t like you back; but you’ll also be crushed on by people that you don’t like back – this works both ways. 

Love thy self. 

Sincerely,
Brokebuthappy